The Missing Link
How do we get more out of life? We get ready for it! A big part of the way people perceive us is the way we dress and our general body language. For instance; what does the picture above say?
My S.O. hates it when I don’t get out of my p.j.’s all day because he perceives it as apathy. Also there is a lot to be said for what a suit or a fancy dress says about someone. The really cool part is that the perception of these is personal to the one perceiving it.
Ideally the way we perceive others and ourselves is fair and unbiased and that the clothes without reflect the personality (and possibly the intentions) of the person within. Lets face it, many things do that; body hygiene, music choice, accessories, pets (or lack thereof), the state of our homes… etc.
Now as to the body language, an excellent book on body language is Superflirt by Tracy Cox. In it, among other things, she discusses in just the first chapter titled, The Basics “…Get what you want without saying a word. Plus tips on how to talk to strangers, invade someone’s space, eye up the talent, and turn someone on-in a mere 10 seconds,” all based on body language… Impossible you say? Drop me a comment and perhaps you may borrow the book from me. Lol subtle? I think not!
Also this book is semi-interactive making it really distinctive (and awesome in my books). What’s your flirting style? uses 3 basic types a) The Auditory b) The Kinesthetic and c) The Visual. Also included is how to spot them based on (yup you guessed it) body language, as well as, each type’s unique possessions.
The best part about this book is learning that even if you’re not a natural flirt, you can still learn it like a pro because knowing what messages you’re sending is half the battle in controlling them.
Now the missing link is harder because writers have to do all this without ever having the reader able to see any of it. This is where the psychic connection comes in… for further clarity on this phenomenon read Stephen King’s book On Writing in which he writes, “Words create sentences; sentences create paragraphs; sometimes paragraphs quicken and begin to breathe.”
I know it is kind of subliminal, but has there ever been a time where you noticed that the way you looked, dressed, flirted, ect made a difference to the one precieving you (other than the obvious job interview or bar pickup)?
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